Yes, my oldest daughter text messaging, posts, and video chats. Yes, she is acutely alert to when it is “time” to renew the wardrobe with a couple of new pieces from the latest fashion trends. Yes, this lady often rolls her vision at my “weird” behaviors. And yes, friends are at the superior of her sharing list these days.
I was truly impressed by her expression in deep wisdom that has used many of us divorces, health illnesses, and endless searches through different veins of the outdoor world to figure out. What my dear girl was saying through the example of summer season camp–one of any conceivable outer examples–probably resonates with most of us when looked at closely.
Certainly not what I experienced a long time back (alright twenty-six years back to be exact) in the tender age of fourteen. Recently my daughter and I were discussing irrespective of whether she would attend, once again, your three week all girls’ camp for the 6th summer in a row.
Yes, my son has her challenges, the girl’s snarky attitudes, her moments of self-doubt. Yes, she can sometimes be mean to the woman’s siblings, sassy to her parents, generally ornery. Even though, underneath it all are ever-expanding and deep cracks of self-awareness, self-love and true concern for others that will serve but not just her, but the world in particular, quite well.
Indeed, a typical adolescent in so many ways, Except underneath the North Face cover and the Ugg boots, lurking behind the gaggle of giddy girlfriends and the fluorescent screen, and even beyond our sexual family discussions and distributed dinners, there lies some self-awareness and interior starting that seems unfathomable for the child her age.
While some parents would like status, monetary reward and upward societal movement because of their children–none of which are unfavorable per say–beyond those exterior pursuits, my deepest heart’s desire for mine can be voiced most succinctly through Shakespeare, “To thine own self be true. ” EnLIGHTenment at its best.
While we encouraged all of our infants to try overnight camp at least once, we have told her of the fact that decision to return is now totally up to her. As all the discussion ensued, I started to be almost mesmerized by the woman’s capacity to articulate the girl’s vantage point on the subject.
Which has a palpable gratitude for all in the opportunities and lessons learned from her previous camp experiences, she began to share her deeper thoughts on the following subject and beyond. She shared that while camp is touted as a destination to be fully and authentically yourself, create a sisterhood, expand a connection to nature, and explore your core throughout contemplation and solitude, the purpose of it all is to come to understand that inner connection is available anywhere, anytime, and most importantly in the NOW.
She assured me that she was not “knocking” camp in any way and probably do choose to return, but if perhaps she does go back designed for another year or three, it would not be since camp experience allows her to feel more traditional in any way. Her return is based on the conscious, bottom (soul) choice to attend since she enJOYs the experience not really because it is a “safe” method to be herself fully on the globe.
Your lady went on to give the example of seeing quite clearly that she doesn’t have to go anywhere specific (camp), do anything special (canoe) or be anything different (a camper) to look authentic, open, connected and free. While she unquestionably views camp as a great thing, she knows that she is enough just as she is by means of or without camp to remind her of that inner knowing.
She even voiced that the songs about sisterhood, respect, and caring, various with a “free to be you” theme, seemed a bit uneven to her now, showing that while appreciative with the sentiment, she hoped the fact that her fellow campers noticed free to be themselves beyond the activities in nature, communal cabins, and family dining. In short, everywhere.
We do not need to go anywhere special or do something intriguing to live our own truth. Basically, freedom to be comfortable within our own skin should not be kept for places that we go to three weeks a year. Self-Love can be cultivated in all means, always.